Modern Wedding Guest Etiquette

September 08, 2018

Modern Wedding Guest Etiquette

Is it okay? Is it not okay? Who really knows the right thing to do at weddings these days? When it comes to weddings, it's best to know what you're getting yourself into because lets face it - this is someone's big day! And what one person thinks to be okay might be another person's faux-pas. That's why we're diving into the modern day do's and don'ts of wedding guest etiquette. Read on to learn all about it!


Don't forget to RSVP!

Whether that means responding to an evite online or sending snail mail, don't neglect to actually respond to your invitation - and no, texting the bride and groom doesn't count. The bride and groom have so much going on, the last thing they need is for guests to be texting them their RSVPs or having to track their guests down to get an answer from them! Instead, try to RSVP as soon as you know you are going to go to the wedding!

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Gift registries are there for a reason

These days, couples often already own a lot of things and that's why a gift registry is so great! A gift registry lets you as the guest give the couple a gift they actually want. If you feel the need to get the couple something off the registry make sure it's something you know they'll love. If you want to be extra careful - get them a gift from the registry along with your creative gift!

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Don't wear white or black

In the past, these rules were etched in stone as major no-no's when it came to weddings. These days it's best to judge from what you know of the wedding so far. Did the invitations state a dress code? Maybe they're doing an all white wedding (in which case it would be rude to not wear white). When it comes to black, as long as you don't look like you're going to a funeral then you're fine wearing black as it can be very chic!

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Don't take photos on your phone!

This is a fairly new rule for weddings since the smart phone age is relatively young! As a general guideline, it is best not to get in the way of the photographer by trying to take your own photos. Of course, some couples will encourage guests to take their own photos and maybe even ask you to use a specific hashtag (i.e. #JackandJillTieTheKnot). So play this one by ear and if you're not sure what to do, just keep your phone stowed away in your pocket!

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Show up where you're invited

Sometimes couples will invite some people to the ceremony and different people to the reception. Don't just assume that since you were invited to one that that means you can go to the other. And alternatively, if you are invited to both - make sure you attend both! Skipping out on a traditional religious ceremony just because you're not religious is a definite no-no. 

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You will know if you got a plus one

Weddings are expensive and that means the couple may try to limit the guest list where possible. This means you may only a receive a singular invitation (with no plus-one)! If the invitation clearly states another name or a 'plus-one' section then you're good to go - but if not, then don't just assume you can bring someone! 

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No one wants to step on the bride and groom's toes! We hope this etiquette guide helped you figure out the do's and don'ts of modern day wedding guest etiquette. Just remember that these days, people have all sorts of different weddings and hold different values so it's always better to keep on the safe side of etiquette to stay in the couple's good books!


Lots of love,


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