Your in-laws are a crucial part of your spouse’s life, so that makes them a crucial part of yours too. Finding ways to always get along with and balance the needs of an entire new family is most definitely a challenge! But… it is totally possible and worth the effort. Here are a few tips to help keep the peace and strengthen your bond with the in-laws.
Rule number one and the absolute key is to work with your partner. You should never put each other in a situation where the other has to choose between you and a relative! Instead, work together to avoid these kinds of impossible situations. Support one another’s family relationships and be the awesome team you know that you are.
Don’t assume you’re on the same page with your in-laws, or even your spouse until you talk about it. Set boundaries and family values together. Then articulate boundaries to your in-laws about when they are or are not invited into your lives, while reassuring them that you are not closing them out. They’re not as fragile as you think and this way you can set yourself up for success before any issues arise!
Do your best to stick to your guns while avoiding communicating through a third party. It’s not a good idea to ask your partner to tell his or her mom that something they did hurt your feelings. Talk to your new family member directly and as soon as possible! A lot of times, what you think may be a bigger issue, turns out to just be a misunderstanding.
Give the relationship time to grow. Take time to realize overall differences and stay open to making adjustments. Remember that it’s not always about being right, but being happy. If you can learn to be the bigger person and make compromises, you will be smooth sailing!
Don’t forget that embracing new family members is an exciting time. You and your partner now get to share even more of your lives together. Keep these tips in mind and don’t lose sight of your sense of humour – keeping the peace with the in-laws will be a breeze.
Best of luck!
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